tRK on dining etiquette: PII

Happy Friday!

Before I go onward with the etiquette list I would like to remind y’all that I will be at Roanoke Vineyard on Love Lane in Mattituck tomorrow (Saturday) 12PM-6PM preparing a flight of 3 small plates highlighting MELONS, prepared both sweet & savory. I will be posting the recipe for the Tomato Tart from last week on Monday.




6. Be on time for your reservation, or give them a buzz.

So, have you ever walked into a restaurant without a reservation, but the host insists they have nothing to offer you. Yet, you look around and see a bunch of empty tables? Those people are probably late. In fact, they might not even be showing up for their reservation. But, because the restaurant is trying to uphold that promise of a table, they will usually hold it anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes. I can assure you the host is merely doing their job by not giving you one of those seemingly “open” tables. If you have a reservation, you should really try to be on time. If you’re going to be late, you should always call because the host can then switch your table with a later one, and seat someone else sooner. This will also give you a few more minutes so you can travel safely. Everyone wins.

7. Wild Child

I’m not even gonna go here. Just, if they’re screaming- you should take them outside to calm them down.

8. Meat temperatures.

Why is this in the etiquette post? Well, because you should know what you are ordering so that you don’t have to send it back. Most of the steaks that I have seen sent back to the chef are actually cooked perfectly- but the diner just didn’t realize what they were ordering. This is a pretty great chart of steak temps. Most chefs will recommend medium-rare, and if you don’t want lockjaw the next day I would steer clear of well done.

steakdonenes9. Never take a phone call at the table.

It is very frustrating to your fellow diners and staff, and the solution is simple. If you are receiving an important call, excuse yourself from the table and step outside. Texting at the table is really at the discretion of those at your table, but I would argue that unless it is really important you should enjoy your meal sans any phone interruption. It seems a bit absurd to talk to other friends through a device when you have people sitting in front of you. IRL.

10. Save your binge drinking for the bar.

Everyone working in that restaurant wants you to have a good time, that is their ultimate goal. But, they don’t really want to deal with a loud, drunk patron who is starting to grab the server’s arm for their attention and is shouting across the room. In fact, if this is how you’re behaving you may even be blacklisted from the place. If you are having a grand ol’ time with your friends, great! Pay your dinner check and move over to the bar where your antics will be better tolerated…to a point.

And here is a little something for us industry people, too.


If you have any questions regarding etiquette- or if you have ever found yourself in a situation you didn’t know how to handle…feel free to email me at

xo. alicia.

steak temperatures image courtesy of


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